THANK YOU Melissa...we never know who reads our blogs, his forever family may be one of your readers. .

and the prayers of many!

This posting scares me. Spreading the word across the internet is an effective way to get the word out, but it's important not only that this boy finds a family... he needs the RIGHT family.

Feeling sorry that he went through a disruption is not enough. Having a lot of love in your heart is not enough. If this boy is placed into another home hastily and it is not the right placement for him, it will only do him more harm.

There are a few agencies (one in particular) that specialize in disruptions and their handling of them is anything but reputable. I hope to goodness this isn't through the agency I'm thinking of.

As you know, my Slugger went through a disruption. It wreaks havoc on a child's psyche. Any family that adopts this child from disruption needs to have acceptance for his attachment issues (I assume he has/will have some), they need to have ridiculous amounts of patience, they need to prepare for testing like they never imagined, and they need to be willing to go to incredible lengths to help their child.

Obviously, not every child that goes through a disruption has issues like my Slugger does. But there is a high likelihood of it.

This email/internet word-spreading raises a big, red flag and I'm worried that whoever is searching for a home for this boy is searching for just that... a home. He needs the RIGHT home.

You're absolutely right, Maggie. I'm going to leave the post for now, but put a note in the body to read your comment (I wish I could link directly to the comment). IF this is a case of an agency handling a disruption in a negative way, people need to know that this kind of thing is out there. They also need to understand what is needed in order to successfully parent a child with the issues that often come along with a child from disruption. And I hope that anyone who seriously thinks about it will look at your blog & the way that you have handled so many situations, and do some serious soul-searching.

Anyway, thanks for the red flag. Prayers are huge & important...but so is knowledge. I would love to know that this little boy finds the right home...but I would also hate to know that I might have contributed to him finding the wrong home, thereby exacerbating his issues.

Thanks again.