We may or may not ever be able to make an announcement that "we're pregnant"...but we have come to understand that the blessing is the fact that however parenthood happens, it is a miracle! ....... Now we have been home with our precious blessing from Russia since August 2007. Join us on our fun and crazy ride that we call "life with this child of mine."
Thursday, August 09, 2007
Visa...It's Everywhere You Want to Be...
(Except for South Korea or Moscow...and probably some other places, too)

They forgot to put that disclaimer in the statement. Mistake number one on my part: not checking with our bank to be sure that we could use our credit card in Moscow. Back on trip one, we tried using the card when we were in S. Korea, and it just wouldn't work. Well, I got in touch with our bank, who said that South Korea is on Visa International's list of places that they would not allow credit card use. I promptly asked if we could use it in Russia, and we were told "yes." So it was then that I told them that we were headed to Russia, and would be there again in the next few months - she said that was fine, not to worry. So I didn't...we used the card fine in Vladivostok, so it didn't occur to me to call again (one of those important details that I just sorta forgot to put on my list) before we headed out on trip two.

On this trip, we used the card fine, in Vladivostok, to pay for our hotel. But... when we got to Moscow on Thursday, we tried to "guarantee" our room with the card, and it wouldn't go through. Because of the time difference, I let it slip my mind to call the bank on Friday...so we had to wait till Monday (evening, in Moscow) to call. We were leaving on Tuesday, so we were in a bit of a crunch, counting our cash to be sure that we would have enough to pay for everything.

As it turns out, I was told by my bank that Moscow is indeed on the "ban" list by Visa International (I'm not telling you this to announce my stupidity for not checking, or to complain about Visa - merely to set the stage for the rest of our tiresome day...and to make sure that if YOU are going to Moscow, check to be sure your cc will work) because of the high risk of theft, and there was nothing my bank could do about it.

Fortunately, we had brought enough cash...BUT, forgot to change it to rubles before the hotel bank closed on Monday. We were supposed to leave for the airport at 8:30 a.m. on Tuesday...the bank didn't open till 9:00. Yikes. So at 8:30, Nathan met our driver downstairs and told him we were going to have to wait until the bank opened so we could pay our hotel bill. This confused our driver, because he couldn't figure out why we wouldn't put it on our credit card. Nathan tried to explain it to him - but I think one of them got confused about what the other was talking about, and so the driver is probably still trying to figure us out.

So...at 9:00, the bank opened and Nathan was waiting. Only to have to run back to us in the lobby to get his passport. Then he was off again. Little I was getting pretty antsy that he couldn't see his dad...but we waited patiently, while Nathan made the exchange and then paid our bill.

Long story, huh?

So, leaving 45 minutes late, we made the trek to the airport. Our driver made sure we got in safely, and he took us as far as he could physically go...put us in the right line for the Delta flight, and then we were on our own. If you think that security is tight in a U.S. airport, then come to Russia! We went through an initial checkpoint, for our passports, tickets, and Little I's immigration papers. Then, we were directed to a table where we had to open up our checked luggage and have it hand searched thoroughly. After that, we got in line to check in with Delta. We finally got checked in and our seat assignments (no bulkhead, unfortunately, for this trip). Then it was off to passport control, where the lady took a long time, checking & stamping our passports...and checking, rechecking, & thoroughly rechecking Little I's paperwork.

All of this took roughly an hour and a half. Thank goodness for that stroller Israel helped us find (and whilst I think of it, if you are headed to Moscow & you want Israel's contact info, just let me know. i'll be glad to set you up with it!). That stroller was truly a lifesaver. Little I got cranky whenever we had to stand still for a long time...but for the most part, he people-watched and enjoyed being pushed around.

Also worth mentioning is the fact that Nathan had woken up with a really sore throat, and by this time was starting to go downhill. Not full-out feverish, but just feeling pretty bad for being in an airport.

Also worth mentioning is that, while we were having our bags checked, someone came up to me and said, "Hi! You don't know me, but I read your blog" (how cool is that? it was another adoptive parent...Hello, Ronda!!).

Anyway, we finally made it through passport control and found a bathroom and water. Only to have to go through another security checkpoint - the one where you take off your shoes and throw away any big containers of liquids (any drinks or liquids you may've just bought in duty free stores, too, which was strange). So then we were in a glass case, with no way to use the bathroom or get anything else to drink. I highly recommend that the SVO airport put drink machines inside these glass cases!

So we met up again with Ronda & her husband & their two kiddos...they had about 45 minutes until their plane boarded (headed to NY) and we were set to leave (headed to ATL) almost an hour behind them.

We were all busy talking, feeding snacks to our kids, chasing our kids, and then dodging a little guy whose mother just wouldn't keep up with him (he was probably about Little I's age... at one point, he got away from his mom while she was changing his diaper, and he was walking around in a shirt & shoes, that's it. then he tried feeding Little I lots of stuff. a cucumber, a cookie, & an apple, to name a couple things. then he decided he would get into other people's bags & climb into their strollers & claim their toys as his. it was interesting. but he was cute)

Ronda & her family went to get in line to get on their plane, when an announcement was made that they were going to be a few minutes late leaving. There were some mechanical difficulties on their plane, so it would be another 45 minutes before they would know anything. At that point, they swapped our gates around (we were still able to stay in the same glass case, though, which was nice). So we were back to waiting together.

When it came time for us to board our plane, we went to get in line. Ten minutes after boarding was supposed to begin, we were still waiting, and they made an announcement that they needed to refuel the plane, and that we would know something in about a half hour.

There were more announcements made about the NY & ATL flights, pushing them back a little farther. And we just wanted to get home. But we were doing our best to be patient & keep our kids as patient as possible.

Finally, our boarding call was made - the NY folks were still waiting, and they were supposed to fly out an hour ahead of us. I'm not sure when/if they finally got to leave. I sure hope so!

About 45 minutes late, we were 'wheels up' and this is where the post gets boring. So I will just say that on a 10 1/2 hour flight, Little I slept almost 7 of those hours...and the Delta crew was sooo much better on this flight than our last one. They were very helpful, and overall more cheery. Little I, when he was awake, won the hearts of almost everyone around him.
welcome home, iliya! welcome home, iliya!
asleep, on the plane...waiting to deplane in ATL

I can't tell you how many times, on this trip (altogether, not just this plane ride) we were asked how often we traveled with him, how many kids we had (one person even made the comment that she just didn't believe that we were first time parents...what a compliment!!). One lady, upon finding out that he had been with us only a couple weeks said she almost couldn't believe it - he just appeared so happy and comfortable with us. You know how that made us feel!!

So the flight was uneventful, except that neither Nathan nor I slept a wink, and we were both exhausted by the end of it!

We finally arrived in Atlanta, only about 20-ish minutes late. But everyone & their sister was coming back into the U.S....the passport control lines were really long. We had been told, at the Embassy, that since Little I was traveling on a Russian passport, we could go through foreign citizens line...but we didn't do that, because that line was even longer than the U.S. citizen line. So we stayed on our original path. We got to a very tired, but nice, passport control agent who welcomed us home and directed us to baggage claim, customs, & immigration control.

Since we were off schedule a bit, and since Little I had slept through every meal, he was living off of yogurt, cheese, & crackers. He had to be starving...but he was doing so well. Hanging in there, my little trooper!!

We got our baggage, went through customs, and then headed toward immigration.

There were quite a few people in the immigration area...but being U.S. citizens, we were ushered to the agent. He stamped Little I's passport, and congratulated us on Little I's brand new U.S. citizenship!


welcome home, iliya!
America's newest citizen!!

Then we were on our way, again, to re-check our baggage and head to our gate. Nathan was feeling pretty bad by this point & wasn't hungry - but we stopped and grabbed some food for me & Little I before heading to the gate. We got some wraps - a club wrap for me, and a ham & cheese wrap for Little I. We got to our gate A13...only to find that there was not a flight to Birmingham departing from that gate. We rechecked our tickets, and upon finding that they did, in fact say "A13," Nathan checked with the desk. He was told that they had changed the departure gate to A30, which is a pretty good walk. So we headed down that way. Only to get there, and notice that there is no flight leaving from B'ham from that gate either. Nathan went to check with the desk, and I guess the lady was pretty sick of people asking her about it because she got major attitude with him. And that's really not the professional thing to do, especially when you are dealing with majorly tired, sick people who just wanna get home, and want to make sure they are not going to miss their flight that is supposed to leave in 30 minutes.

Finally, they made the announcment that the flight to Birmingham would be leaving from gate A7. There was a collective groan among all the people that had trudged down to the end of the terminal...and we all headed back toward A7.

All's well that ends well, though...and we got on our plane, were told that there had been a power failure, and that we would be up & running in another 30 minutes. Finally. in about a half hour, we were wheels-up, and headed toward home.

Twenty four minutes later, we deboarded the plane in Birmingham. Finally, home. Or at least 45 minutes away from it, anyway! I used the bathroom, really quick & changed Little I's diaper. And then we were headed on the one-minute walk to our welcome home entourage. Here are a few pics my mom sent to me...I thought they were good. Click on the thumbnails to make them bigger.

welcome home, iliya! a portion of the welcome home crew


welcome home, iliya! both grandfathers, eagerly try to spot us


welcome home, iliya! here we are, meeting everyone!

I haven't counted up how many people actually came to the airport, but we were so excited to see every person that came!! Despite all my worries, Little I really did quite well with everyone. I later made the observation that by this point, he was pretty used to crowds of people. We had been in several airports, and in parks. He never freaked out in a crowd, as long as he was with us. But his experience with crowds of people involved people that really were into their own business and not focused on him.

This crowd was different. Everyone was looking at us. After a minute of being attached to me, as I hugged people, he decided he had enough & started crying.

And thank you, to all of you, who took his signals to heart and backed away. It gave him room to recuperate - and then once he seemed to realize that these people were not there to grab him & run off with him, he warmed up a little bit. He smiled a few times and played with a ball that my brother had brought for him. He wasn't the least bit interested in getting down, or going to anyone (which was a good sign) but he didn't seem to mind the attention, once he warmed up to the fact that all the attention was focused on him.

We stayed for maybe a half-hour and then we were all so tired, it was time to go. Here are a few more pictures:

welcome home, iliya!most of my family

welcome home, iliya!nathan's family

welcome home, iliya!my parents with their first grandchild


welcome home, iliya!playing pat-a-cake in the parking garage

And there are more pictures...I will have to sort through them and share them later. But that will whet your appetite for a little while, hopefully!

We left everyone, so happy to have seen them...and so ready to get home to our bed. Our wonderful brother-in-law, Patrick, chauffered us home...and our niece, Nat (who is completely enamored with iliya), rode with us. Iliya held out for as long as he could before falling off to sleep. I'm not sure how he will feel about his carseat when we put him in it again...but he didn't mind it at all, Tuesday night. I do think he was a little confused, though, because he was used to riding in my lap, while we were in Russia. All-in-all, he did really well on the ride home.

When we got home, we had some great surprises for us! I's Aunt Kristy & Natalie had painted him a canvas...and gotten him a few pairs of clothes. They had also done a little grocery shopping for us...as had my co-workers! Some of our friends had decorated with some streamers and balloons. It was so good to be home...and even better to be surrounded by such wonderful acts of kindness on our return!!

Our dogs are not home, yet, but Little I was, at first, fascinated with our cats. And then he decided he was terrified of them. (once he woke up in the morning, he decided to like them again...though when Mia jumped up onto the piano, Little I was afraid again...evidently he wasn't sure about these creatures who could jump so high. by bedtime last night, he was okay with them again)

He got a quick bath and finally pooped...in the tub. So we cleaned that out, rebathed him, and we were off to bed.

welcome home, iliya! loving his new bathtub & TOYS

I tried rocking him and putting him down in his crib, but he woke up everytime I'd try to lay him down. We finally lay him in the bed with us, and he slept (roughly) until about 6:00 in the morning. Nathan was still not feeling well...but we all went ahead & got up and ate breakfast. We opened up Little I's room, and he quickly demolished it - pulling every thing off of the shelves, and playing with only a few things. This gave me the opportunity to determine what should stay and what we should put back until he is used to his surroundings. Then Nathan laid back down, while Iliya & I played for a few hours. I put together his new ball pit (compliments of my brother, Johnathan) and we just hung out for a while.

welcome home, iliya! riding on his new Radio Flyer toy (that he LOVES)

welcome home, iliya!

welcome home, iliya! playing in his new ball pit

When it was naptime, he would not have anything to do with his crib. I finally got him asleep and laid down, and he stayed there, maybe 15 minutes. This is pretty frustrating for us...but we finally determined that Nathan's & my physical bodies are the only thing in our entire house, that are familiar to Iliya right now, and to make him most comfortable and secure, we are not going to fight the sleep battle right now. And we'll just lay him down with us for now.

Eating? Eating is going really well, so far. He ate a cinnamon roll for breakfast, noodle soup for lunch, yogurt for snacks, and grilled cheese sandwiches & a few bites of soup (that we lovingly call "Mawmaw soup" because N's grandmother always cans it) for dinner. He didn't pitch any fits, when food time was over. We played for a little while, and then we were off to bed and asleep by 9:00. He slept pretty roughly, but at least he slept. Nathan & I were up by 4:00 this morning, because we just couldn't go back to sleep. I was able to get out of bed and leave Iliya there for a couple hours. He slept just fine, till a few minutes ago.

He is now up and ready to start his day, so I'd better get off this computer. So that's pretty much it for now. I'm sorry to have made that so long...yet so quick...but you are now updated on where we are right now. Here are a couple more pics to close out. Thanks again for everything!! Love to you all!

welcome home, iliya!reading dad's textbook

welcome home, iliya!my cool cat

25 Comments:
Blogger ~Telah said...
So glad that you all made it home and things are going so well for you! He is such a cutie! Can't wait to get to see him IRL!

Blogger Cori said...
Congratulations sweetie! He is just precious. I am so thrilled for you & Nathan. Welcome to the US and to Alabama Little I!!!! *hugs*

Anonymous Anonymous said...
What a wonderful story! I'm so happy to hear things are going incredibly well. He's too cute for words and I can tell you are so in love with him it hurts!

Anonymous Anonymous said...
We wouldn't have missed the airport greeting! - Mamaw said "words just can't describe it"! And you all did so well - Nathan hid his infimities and was so polite to Bill.........talking about Russian airport bathrooms! We are so happy for you and so is everyone else! Your Dad just couldn't get enough of him - he was grinning ear to ear - and your Mom probably hasn't washed her glasses yet! Bill's cherished his "high five"! I think there were about 25-30 people there to greet - Keep on being such a good mommy and daddy and get Nathan well. We love the pics!
Love, Sis

Anonymous Anonymous said...
talk about spell check - infirmities (sickness)
sis again

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Melissa and Nathan,

I have kept up with your journey through your blog and I can't tell you how happy I am for you both. Never second guess your ability as parents because I can't imagine anyone more capable. Little I is adorable. Congratulations and Welcome Home!

Ruth Womack

Blogger Jane and Jim said...
Hi Melissa,
I've been reading your blog for a long time - we've emailed a few times too - We're with CHI too. Anyway, I just wanted to contratulate you, you make such an adorable family - Iliya is just beautiful. Keep on blogging so we can keep up with his growth and development. Welcome home Iliya!
Jane

Blogger Troy and Rachel said...
Welcome Home!! Sounds like you made it through flight etc just fine and wow what great compliments from strangers you received!! We can't wait to hear more on how the adjustment to home is going!!

Blogger Susan said...
Congratulations to you three and welcome home. Now the real adventures begin!!

Blogger Aubrey said...
Yee-haw!!! Glad to have you all home and see pictures of your little man playing with all his NEW toys!!!

Blogger Ginger said...
Awesome post! I knew there would be stories!

Travel and Visa complications aside, sounds like you had a remarkably smooth journey home. You have been blessed with an amazing boy. The comments you received from total strangers only confirm what all of us already knew...that you two (M & N) and Little I are a match made in heaven. You can't fake that bond!

Loved seeing pictures of the little man in his house...and am waiting patiently for more! Love you!

Blogger Elle said...
Your flight home sounds like ours. Child slept, we didn't. Happy to hear the transition to home is going well.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
First, let me tell all of you "loyal blog reader's" who were unable to welcome home N,M,and I at the airport...if you think little Iliya is cute in the pictures...you really should see him in person!!! He is an absolute angel! His smile will just light up an entire room. It was so hillarious when he would pretend "caugh" just to see all of our reactions. Alex thought playing ball with him was just the greatest thing...I'm sure Josh and Nat thought the same! He really does have such a pleasant personality, and I think he is going to blend in just great with both of your families!

Nate and Melissa, you are doing such a great, wonderful, awsome thing...and are doing such a great, wonderful, and awsome job. Can't wait until our next visit!

Love,
Andrea

Anonymous Anonymous said...
So glad to hear things are going well. Sorry Dad woke yall up last night. I told him I wasn't calling yesterday, cause there was no telling when you would be sleeping! But, I do love the green sunglasses, I just knew he had to have them!! Every little cutie pie needs sunglasses! Rest up and keep on doing what you're doing!!
Love to you all,
Nana & Papa

Anonymous Anonymous said...
I know ya'll are so happy to be home!! Looking at the pictures you do look like you've been a mother for forever, but that has ALWAYS been an instinct in you. Ya'll take care and can't wait to see ya'll! Love ya girl!!

Blogger Robin said...
What a long trip home. Glad it is all over with and its time to enjoy the rest of your life as parents. Hope Nathan feels better soon.

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Hey sister! I really enjoyed reading about the trip!!! I also love the picture of Dad and Don looking for yall! They have the EXACT same expression on their faces. Again, I'm sorry I didn't make it to the airport-- I was very very very sad, but things have been so crazy. Anyway, I have loved all the pictures and stories and I'm glad that everything has gone so well!!! Love ALL of you! ~Sarah

Blogger Dede said...
Welcome home! You did a great job keeping us informed and letting those of us who have not travelled yet, what to expect. Congratulations!!!

Blogger A Room to Grow said...
that's so cool you met ronda! (aren't their kids beautiful!) we are using the same agency and have been email friends for a couple of months. we hope to meet them soon!

Blogger Chris said...
Melissa and Nathan,

We have been watching your blog a couple of times a day for the last two weeks and we are so happy for you. Your blog has been a source of encouragement and a wealth of information.

We hope to follow in your footsteps and bring our girls home in September.

God Bless you and your family!
Chris and Danica

Blogger kate said...
welcome home!

Anonymous Anonymous said...
I've been following your blog as well. I'm a fellow southern gal (South Carolina), and we're at the beginning of our adoption process from Russia. Thanks for sharing your story, and for all the helpful info. Congratulations on finally being home with your adorable son.
God bless your family.

I'm so glad to read the update and see your flight went well and you are all adjusting nicely to being home. Iliya is so precious. It sounds like he is so attached to you both which is wonderful news! You all look so beautiful together as a family. I'm so happy you are finally home.

I hope Nathan feels better soon!

Anonymous Anonymous said...
I am so glad you guys made it home. Little I is absolutely adorable. You and Nathan look like you have been at this for years. I am so happy that your precious angel is finally home and adjusting to everything. Take care and keep the pictures coming.

Melodie Allen

Blogger Sira said...
I am so happy you are finally home- enjoy congratulations and God bless!!!!!!