As an adoptive mother, I find that my mind often runs along the same lines as other adoptive mothers...and maybe that IS because we sort of went to a similar "mother school." We went to trainings and read books and...well, you name it, we did it (and still do!), as we became mothers. I know, the majority of mothers do read books and all, but for most adoptive mothers, this is a requirement of our agencies, as well as something we just feel the need to do. Why? As a part of becoming mothers to post-institutionalized (PI) children, we set out with the understanding that we may potentially face issues that are often more rare when people have biological children.

Now, I'm not saying all that to segregate adoptive mothers from biological mothers.

Really, what I'm getting at (if you can figure it out without me telling, then you are a step ahead of me, even!)...is that - while adoptive parents often experience many of the same things that biological parents do - adoptive parents are often have fairly adoption-unique things they fret over, wonder about, and do.

A most interesting happens to me - on a fairly regular basis. I begin formulating a post in my head, and then another (if not several other!) adoptive parents beat me to posting about the very topic. I guess it's a case of the "mother school" kicking in...or maybe we're just all at a point of experiencing.

Just a week ago, I began thinking about posting on update on attachment...and before I could get the words typed on my computer, both Elle and Susan wrote thought provoking posts on attachment and the internationally adopted child. It's also interesting that Elle has been home 2 years, we have been home 1 year, and Susan has been home several months. So we're all at different points...yet our posts all have similar themes.